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puppypure	High rates of bachelorhood among Asian-Americans/Canadians?	Lead	[-]
Posts: 15 (04/06/04 15:42:47) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts	Tags : None I am back from my trip to the West Coast - I had the chance to catch up with a friend who's married to a woman from a very traditional Viet-Chinese family. I asked about her family, and it transpires that out of 5 siblings, only she is married and the others (3 girls, 1 boy) seem destined to never marry - in fact, they have never dated! All are in their mid-late 30s. Anyway, her family reminded me of other families I know in which the kids (raised primarily in N. America) remain single. I speculate that the single-ness results from a combination of strict parenting into the 20s (aka living at home into your 20s) and then a lack of opportunity eventually transforming into a lack of ability to mingle with the opposite sex/right sex and then tada - single-dom!
Unregistered(d)	geekiness trumps all	#1	[-]
Posts: 0 (04/07/04 10:52:36) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts	I think that overprotective parents combined with natural geekiness does not an easy couple make. Don't forget North American pickiness. If the parents want their kids to get married there's two options: mail order brides/husbands, or what Salon.com deemed surrogates - aka Intimacy Counsellors - to help them get over their social anxiety. I include the option of Going back to the old country to find a match as part of the mail order significant other category. But I find it's usually just pickiness on the individual's part where they can't settle down. I mean if Hawking can find a wife I think the chances of people finding are pretty good. As long as you're not picky.
Edirol Reborn	picky	#2	[-]
Posts: 5 (04/12/04 14:24:26) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts	I'm sure those that want to marry and/or have kids will find a way. But I'm not 100% on this bachelorhood thing...cuz there are bachelors everyone from any race/group. I dunno if anyone has #s to prove this...anecdoctal data well...it's just that. I'd say those who are most anti-social (which usually goes along with nerdy (not geeky)) are most prone to this. I make the distinction cuz I think geeks are cool whereas nerds are not Hmm....and to diverge a bit off topic...it's gonna really suck when all those baby boomers turn senior. OK there ends some random thoughts... - Edirol
katsuieshibata		#3	[-]
Posts: 1 (12/03/08 13:59:33) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts	Well, it is especially difficult for Asian men who are Canadian born to find partners, due to the lack of women available to accomodate all the Asian men. I don't want to sound racist, but at the same time, we must not ignore the obvious fact that while men of other ethnicities choose to date and marry Asian women, their women are on the whole more reluctant to dating Asian men. You will see that there are ten times more interracial couples where the Asian partner is the woman than when the instance is it is the man. This makes the situation in Canada difficult for the men to acquire mates similar to the men in mainland China in that in both societies, asian men find mate selection difficult due to the shortage of women available due to a high sex ratio of eligibles. The difference would be that a Canadian born Asian male would be able to find a bride in a developing country due to having the power to sponsor a mate over to Canada, whereas a Chinese male who loses the opportunity to mate really is often stuck and there would be little recourse for such individual.
katsuieshibata		#4	[-]
Posts: 2 (12/03/08 13:59:35) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts	Well, it is especially difficult for Asian men who are Canadian born to find partners, due to the lack of women available to accomodate all the Asian men. I don't want to sound racist, but at the same time, we must not ignore the obvious fact that while men of other ethnicities choose to date and marry Asian women, their women are on the whole more reluctant to dating Asian men. You will see that there are ten times more interracial couples where the Asian partner is the woman than when the instance is it is the man. This makes the situation in Canada difficult for the men to acquire mates similar to the men in mainland China in that in both societies, asian men find mate selection difficult due to the shortage of women available due to a high sex ratio of eligibles. The difference would be that a Canadian born Asian male would be able to find a bride in a developing country due to having the power to sponsor a mate over to Canada, whereas a Chinese male who loses the opportunity to mate really is often stuck and there would be little recourse for such individual.

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